Southeast Missouri Youth Substan

I THINK MY FRIEND HAS A PROBLEM
So you think your friend has a drug or alcohol problem? Does he or she seem like a different person when using or perhaps he's been hanging out with a 'different' crowd? Do you worry about the decisions she is making? Whatever it is, the important thing is you are the kind of friend that wants to help.

Your friend will probably insist he or she is just having fun and that the abuse is no big deal. However, being the smart teen you are, you know that is not true. The question now is, "How do I help my friend?"

GETTING PAST THE FEAR
The time to take action, once you suspect or know your friend has a problem, is now. Don't wait - it may be too late. However, it can be scary so remember that you are doing this for your friend and his future. Don't make excuses, address the problem ASAP - no matter how scary it seems.

HOW TO BEGIN
Most of us want to spend our time chatting online, shopping, playing sports or just hanging out with our friends - not talking to them about their drug or alcohol problem. This subject is difficult for everyone, so know that you are not alone. Decide what you are going to say (and how you will say it) before you start. When discussing this topic with your friend, keep these points in mind:

PRIVACY. Discuss the issue in a private place where others are not likely to overhear your conversation.

POSITIVE MESSAGES. Always remember to express some type of positive message before and after you talk to your friend about his or her problem. This will make them feel more comfortable and let them know you are doing this out of care and concern.

RESEARCH. Research the topic you will be discussing with your friend. Examples on how to start this difficult conversation is only a click away. Check out what freevibe.com has to say.

SOLUTIONS. Go into the conversation prepared to recommend a solution. This will help your friend realize there are alternatives to the choices he or she is currently making.

HOW WILL MY FRIEND REACT
If your friend is abusing drugs or alcohol, there is no way to predict how he or she will react. All drugs can be harmful and addicting, and can alter a person's behavior. However, what we can tell you is the situation will only get worse. Therefore, the earlier you talk to your friend and offer help, the better.

THE POWER OF FRIENDSHIP
As scared as you may be the great thing is 68% of teens say they would turn to a friend or brother/sister about a serious problem related to drug or alcohol abuse. This means that when you talk to your friend - they will listen. Don't underestimate your own power. Know that you are helping your friend and that, in the end, she will see that. Be confident - it is okay to be afraid, but it is not okay to do nothing.

For more information please visit

Partnership for a Drug-Free American

and

National Clearing House for Alcohol and Drug Information

This information was obtained from freevibe.com